Wednesday, February 18, 2009


Okay guys, so how much flirting should a girl do to get your attention, let you know she is intersted, and yet not seem creepy stalkerish? (I know it will vary, just give me a guesstimate.) How much flirting is too much? When should she know her signal has been sent and now she needs to back off?


  1. I think as girls you can't really go too far where general flirting is concerned. Guys won't feel threatened like girls might, and they aren't afraid of creepy stalkers and such. In fact, if you come on strong to a guy who isn't interested, he will probably take it as a compliment, smile, and move on.

    A good rule of thumb is as follows: if a guy asks you out, he is probably interested to some degree. He doesn't want to come on too strong without having feelings reciprocated. As a result, he is limited in his flirting and actions. Girls can easily take a guys hand or flirt without worrying about repercussions. Guys also like a girl who is bold and daring.

    So, since you can't really scare guys and since you already know that they are interested if they ask you out, feel free to flirt as much as you would like.

    Personally, I don't really like it when girls "play the game." Obviously, we don't want someone who is super giddy and giggly because she is so happy to be on a date (since that would just be awkward), but we do want someone who is mature and honest about her feelings and able to communicate them well. If you like a guy, let him know.

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  3. Okay this totally depends on the guy but I'll try to break it out some.

    Guys that are more outgoing, If they flirt back, and start making moves, they probably got the message. These guys won't need nearly as many hints and will start making moves soon if they are interested. They will also prefer to do more of the chasing, so let them.

    Guys that are more shy, well they might flirt back or not, and they might be too intimidated to make any moves. For these guys it might take quite a while and/or a friend present to tell them that "hey, she likes you!"

    Some guys like it if you just slip them your phone number on a note with a little note that has your name, says "Call me :)" or similar. That will get the message across in a hurry. Better still some guys even like being asked out. In fact truth be told the majority of guys secretly want to be asked out, but won't admit to it if confronted.

    However if you want to take the more traditional approach and wait for them to ask you out, then it might take a while. Just don't keep pursuing if after a while they aren't still flirting back, unless you know for a fact that guy really isn't the outgoing type.

    If you really don't want to come across as creepy then don't under any circumstance:
    Stalk the guy.
    Don't write and give him letters saying how much your in love with him when he hasn't even asked you out yet.
    Don't try to change his mind and keep pursuing if he's told you that he's not interested.

    Do have fun, and happy flirting.